tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2188612743333869147.post3809094513180104544..comments2015-06-14T12:20:09.613-04:00Comments on peanutbutterandjenni: Dating rules: Make them or break them?pbjennihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16824870779411050487noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2188612743333869147.post-68639625835852421682012-01-24T19:10:03.452-05:002012-01-24T19:10:03.452-05:00Yes, that's my point. We think we know oursel...Yes, that's my point. We think we know ourselves and what we like, but do we really? Not at all! My point is that we need to chuck the list and focus first and foremost on the rule that he loves Jesus. My reference to "Lead Me" implies that I want the kind of man who wants to be led by the Lord (himself) so that he can then lead his family. I don't think I implied that men have to "arrive" and if so, I apologize. I'll never arrive - so would never expect my mate to either. Arriving would take the fun out of this wouderful journey called life! <br /><br />Thank you for your thoughts! I certainly do not claim to have everything figured out, and appreciate your feedback!pbjennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16824870779411050487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2188612743333869147.post-25327912940108873592012-01-24T18:45:15.198-05:002012-01-24T18:45:15.198-05:00I know sister that you are trying to get some dial...I know sister that you are trying to get some dialogue going here, but I think it's really important to realize that the Christian life is about freedom. What would it look like if we take the emphasis and energy off of our wish list or rules and just relax? Why all this emphasis on our desires? Doesn't God know us better than we know ourselves? Can't we trust Him to ultimately know what is best for us? <br /><br />I don't believe we can truly love others or receive love from others until we know who we really are in Christ. God pours love into our hearts (Romans 5) and we are no longer under the law but the spirit. If we have a list of rules or expectations then frankly, we will always be disappointed because we are still trying to control the process. <br /><br />I do understand your interest in the song "lead me" but I think the song is more about how men need help from God to be the leader instead of a christian cliche of what a leader looks like. Men are works in progress just as we are. To have a rule that men have to "arrive" is frankly very unrealistic. I'm sorry to be so frank, but by having this "list" in dating you are entering a relationship looking for what you want out of the relationship instead of what you can give the relationship. I'm not saying that we shouldn't be discerning, but I am trying to emphasize that we are no longer under the law so we can just relax about this by staying tuned into God and the leading of the Holy Spirit. <br /><br />Surrender. Be filled with the Holy Spirit. He will guide you to become the kind of person that you want to attract. You will really know "the" man because the connection will be spiritual and you'll know it's God's handiwork and not your own. You see sister, in Christ and in grace, it's all about freedom. (Rom 7:6)sushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00996839052668139557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2188612743333869147.post-59641120528397810232012-01-02T18:43:41.343-05:002012-01-02T18:43:41.343-05:00Thank you! Yes, breathing is good! You're funn...Thank you! Yes, breathing is good! You're funny! I am so glad you found me, but am curious as to how. This blog is new to me, so I am just learning. Happy New Year!pbjennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16824870779411050487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2188612743333869147.post-17287324163483290302012-01-02T18:42:49.928-05:002012-01-02T18:42:49.928-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.pbjennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16824870779411050487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2188612743333869147.post-5486215925623349792012-01-02T18:05:59.424-05:002012-01-02T18:05:59.424-05:00this is a great blog! it would seem to me that as ...this is a great blog! it would seem to me that as time goes on, either your standards for finding a mate can get higher, or...sink to a low and take whatever comes along. i myself, just have one request~ that the guy is still breathing. lol!!!loolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17945582591949071592noreply@blogger.com