As single ladies, we meet Mr. Amazing and get grooving in the newness of the situation with reckless abandonment of what is really important to us. I get the whole “it takes time to get to know someone” thing, but let’s face it… chemistry and values are important. I have looked at Mr. Amazing’s list of great values but ignored the NO chemistry part, and vice versa - have felt the chemistry ignoring the values part. We often try to make square pegs fit in round holes and it’s just not comfortable. We don’t RUN fast enough when the red flags tell us to RUN and it makes for yuck-yuck down the road. Amen!?!
In truth, do we even know what we are looking for in the first place?
So here’s my exciting exercise (and it does NOT involve running or boob sweat this time, so please relax):
I have categorized a few key areas on what I have to offer and am looking for in a lovie dovie. Here are my key areas: personality, youthful approach to life, physical, romance, responsibility and priorities, lifestyle, intelligence, values and ideals, spirituality, and confidence. I intend on this document being fluid and ever-changing. Think of it as a roadmap for 2014. You can never get to where you want to go by driving in circles!
Here’s a verse from the Good Book that applies very well:
“As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his foolishness.” ~ Proverbs 26:11 NLT
Pretty gross, huh!?!
My point is this, we need to understand ourselves first and what is important to us before we can go looking for those things in someone else. I hear girls say, “He was beneath me” or “I lowered my standards.” You have to have a baseline to compare standards to in the first place. He’s beneath WHAT?
I cannot be too rigid with this impossible list of the PERFECT man, but there are certain things that I cannot and will not compromise on. I’m shallow, so he has to be HOT. I’m not gonna lie. Sue me.
Anywho… clearly know what YOU have going for YOU first. You have to love and understand yourself FIRST. Be honest with yourself and correct those area in YOU that need corrected before you look for Mr. Amazing to do the damage repair.
Happy New Year, ladies! Cheers! xo