It all comes down to this for me - he must be a Christian and he must be good looking. Of course, good looking comes from the inside out, so there are no set rules here. I don’t have a particular “look” that I am attracted to - except the “look” of a man who loves Jesus. Loving Jesus makes a man very, very attractive to me. Do you know that song “Lead Me” by Sanctus Real? That’s the man I want when it all comes down to it. By Christian, I mean a fully devoted follower of Christ including: assuming his duties as head of the household (1 Cor. 11:3), loving me ( Ephesians 5:33), and setting an example in what he says, how he lives, and in love, faith and purity (1 Timothy 4:12).
Let’s be careful at the same time to NOT over-Spiritualize this. If he is too far from your gut level of a possibility, and the relationship has a few red-flags, God is not going to bring it all together magically just because you are Christians. Seek wise Christian counsel (friends, pastors, etc.), give the relationship time to develop, watch how he treats his mother/children, read Christian relationship books (“Boy Meets Girl” by Joshua Harris is my favorite), get a clear understanding of where he sees his role as the man in your relationship, understand his willingness to compromise, stay pure, and listen to God. And make sure he smells right!
Have you ever looked outside of your box? What attracts you to a man? What are some of your rules?